Children of all ages learn from everything they see, hear and do, and from everyone they meet. Children learn from their teachers, the people they visit and observe in their communities, and most importantly from their parents. Parenting is probably the most important job in the planet. Being a good role model is one of the important parts of parenting.
Good parenting is not about making sure that the child is happy. A big part of it is about helping him or her learn to deal with hinder and hard times that are unpredictable parts of life. Our goal should be to teach our children all they will need to know that will enable them to function well as adults; things such as the important link between their behavior and its consequences, the concepts of accountability and proper ways to solve problems and make good choices.
Our most important role is raising our kids to become capable, well-adjusted human beings. And in this individualistic, selfish world we are in, we seem to have a lot of demanding kids these days and it is because they have learnt that their parents will meet their every urge. So, just watch out before you again end up giving what you do not want to.
Research shows that as few as 15 quality minutes daily with your child can make a world of difference in child’s healthy development. Each day, take time to talk and listen to your child, and teach your child through example the traditional values that sustain healthy life.
Being a good role model for your children will not always win parents the “most popular” award. Saying “no” when necessary and giving children age appropriate restrictions probably will not be something your children will thank you for now, but so many times they will come back to thank you after they have grown up.
We, every parent should seriously ask ourselves “Are we raising our child to be independent and capable?” One of our biggest jobs is to help our kids learn to live successfully on their own.
Emphasis should be given to merits of empathy and kindness to make our kids learn not to always put themselves first, but instead to consider the needs of others. Parents should compulsorily add “no” to their vocabulary and not feel guilty about using it with the kids. Always giving kids what they want does not help kids learn. “You don’t always get what you want in life”. Always rescuing kids from their frustration does not help them learn serious handling skills.